She was lost before she was gone

#‎Temptations Confessions Of a Marriage Counselor#

‪                                            #‎Another Vital Lesson#

 

Narrowing this lesson to just one point in the movie, which is such a vital truth being experienced in our present day reality. She was truly lost before she was gone, in a world of hers where she began to seek the real meaning of her life, a substantial definition for her existence, a fulfillment for her soul and happiness for her spirit, left her to a world with dark paths. Life at the point of searching for meaning, presented her the picture of an endless walk to freedom, where the bonds of dissatisfaction, seems like never going to meet with healing. Marriage is God's idea and concept, which is unique, a beautiful thing and a blessing, to bring into the lives of the couple completeness in purpose, fulfillment of being and a realistic sense of belonging. In other to achieve success within the union of marriage our decisions and choices before and in marriage becomes pivotal.

A lot of people make marital decisions based on how they feel, based on their emotions, based on who they have been close to, based on some funny things and selfish interest, and not mainly on who they are and where God is taking them to in life. Emotional decisions are illogical and irrational, but a decision made with a definite sense of purpose, a clear goal and direction in life, directed by the Holy Ghost is supreme, because the fundamental factor that will keep a home is working in the Centre of God's purpose and vision through knowledge, wisdom and understanding.

The couple fell in love at a very tender age, they grew closely together in love and were probably made for each other as it appears so naturally connected, their biggest mistake wasn't falling in love, but the biggest mistake was falling in love without a clear sense of purpose and direction in life, It was such a sweet bliss, lost in the nectar of it, which was going to be toughly tested with seeking the true meaning for her living just few moments into the union.  Within her innermost being was the yearning and quest to truly define her, then surfaced the difficult realities of marriage, for which the emotions or personal reasons that got her into it, couldn’t sustain the sweet bliss or help her find the answers to her most inner quest. 

She was lost before she was gone, at some point in her life and marriage, marriage became boring, unfulfilling and unrewarding, and she felt like it was a waste of her time, because her sense of personal fulfillment, joy, happiness, satisfaction was lost, which marriage could not help her find the answers to. Her life in marriage was like someone lost in the desert, searching for direction, food and water without any sign of hope, though her husband was a nice guy who   couldn’t help just  her find the true meaning of living for her soul.  In this torment of darkness came the predator, a computer guru and a successful business man, who capitalized and took advantage of the vacuum and emptiness which was in her life.

 Marriage is a platform that gives us the opportunity to be all that God has made us, reach our full potential, fulfilling our purpose and destinies, through the support of one another, this what makes the right person, and not necessarily a good person, because being a good person doesn't mean you the right person, and loving someone doesn't make that person is the right person, for love is a choice.  The point in her life and marriage came, her soul still seeking for meaning, like the dare pants for water, her dream seeking expression, her true self longing for discovery and manifestation, her visions, inner most passion, burning desires and potentials and who she was on the inside were seeking manifestation, at every point of her life, came each day without finding answers, which became frustrating and disappointing destroying her joy and sense of happiness from within.

 One day she came back home, and told the husband that she was wasting her time working in a place, I want to be a marriage counselor, I didn't go to school to sit in one office and help an old man get a date, this was her true self speaking, just being expressed, her life seeking a true sense of meaning and worth, the ignorant husband replied her, baby forget about that now, going into your own practice will take you ten to fifteen years from now, then she looked at him, disappointed from within and told him, that's so encouraging, thanks, the young man thought he has done a great job. As her frustrations deepened that same evening, she began talking about her domestic role in the home with her husband, which she was successful at, thinking if marriage was all about that, then within her could have been a quench to her longing  taste for meaning, because in her was this awareness that her life was bigger and deeper than the domestic role of a wife and working in a match making company, yet her husband couldn't sense ,observe or figure out  her longing, instead of being a support, he began  to do some good things that weren't the right things, taking her out for dinner that night and couldn’t perceive the dissatisfaction within her. 

When she met with the predator, her true self seeking expression spoke again, I want to help people, own a practice and be a marriage counselor, the man looked at her with a sense of persuasion and said that's noble, you so smart and intelligent, you can do it, you self-motivated, I want you to make it happen now and am here to support you, so put up a business plan , this was the point in her life where another man took control of her very being, and this was the point she was truly gone, because all the while her true self that was lost within found the needed encouragement for expression for the first time, somebody showed faith in her, somebody told her she could do it and become all she has dreamed of. 

Marriage is a medium to help bring out the best in another, to help us reach the full potential of who we are, which we have discovered, because this what puts meaning, beauty and life into a marriage, when we are on course fulfilling our God given purpose. Marry according to who you are and where you going, and finding the right partnership, is finding the right support that you can work with in oneness, to bring all that God has place within you to reality. Know where you going in life, discover yourself, find someone through the help of God’s Spirit and wisdom, who has the mindset, character, heart, passion, sincere motives, potentials to help you successful travel the journey of life and destiny, who will be by your side always. Be a support, inspiration, motivation, confidence to one another, so as to reach your God given goal, becoming your true self, for marriage only brings meaning when it's helping us become all that God has called us to be.

 Meaning, worth, value and sense of significance is found in becoming who we really are, fulfilling the purpose, reaching the full potential. For our life is not and experiment but a divine assignment, don't kill your spouse, God given dream, visions and potentials, but rather help one another to become, and to find real meaning spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually etc, the true essence of being.‪#‎Dandy Ikhuoria